We can cultivate this gift, not by focusing on ourselves but rather on others, in the dignity we bestow on them. Make space for others in your heart as God makes space for you. Practice hesitation, a posture of holy listening to others’ lives. 

To listen to the podcast (17:12) from the Brothers of The Society of St. John the Evangelist (SSJE) Monastery in Cambridge, MA: https://www.ssje.org/4.audio/12days/day8.mp3  

Blessings, my friend
Agatha